How Can I Benefit From Sex Toys?

During sex, the only things we are aiming at are intimacy and pleasure. And we can achieve them in so many ways. Using adult toys is just one of them. Is it all about the pleasure? No, but let’s start there.

Adult toys can work on you in numerous ways. For example:
- If you’re a man, imagine sliding your cock inside a vibrating vagina, while your partner is caressing your body.
- If you’re a woman, imagine gently penetrating yourself with a soft vibrator, while your partner works on your clitorus, or your breasts.

You get the idea about what’s possible, don’t you? At first, you’ll resist the sensation, because it’s so intense. Once you accept it, and you give in – you will feel the pleasure shake you down to your core.

Obviously there is more than just pleasure. It’s about trust and therefore about intimacy. Just imagine your partner using sex toy on you for the first time. You will feel nervous, won’t you? Why? Because this is something new, something unknown. And the only way to overcome that is to have complete trust in our partner.

Trust-building exercises are so powerful. With an adult toy, you can build trust and feel sexual pleasure at the same time. Isn’t this what sex between lovers is mostly about?

I will advise you and your partner not to use adult toys every time you have sex. Otherwise, you will forget their purpose. The purpose is to bring you closer to one another, along with the different sexual experience. It’s exciting to use toys on yourself and your partner, but remember that you can also enjoy him/her without any toys at all.