Real adult shops

Advantage: We can go to an adult shop with our significant other. We would think that it is a romantic experience, but in my opinion it is overrated. You go there, and there are tens of couples, that are doing the same thing, and it’s not like they are being quiet. A quiet store, where my wife and I can talk silently and hear what the other one is saying would be perfect. This would really be an intimate experience. Maybe there are such stores, but I never came across one.

Disadvantage: When you enter a real adult shop for the first time, you might feel a little uncomfortable. Porn movies, all kinds of toys – it can get a little overwhelming. Especially if you’re new at this and you are looking for a little toy to experiment with. All the hardcore stuff  you will encounter will surely make you ask yourself if you really want to do this. Pay no attention to the huge vibrators and the kinky porn movies. That’s not for you… yet. Keep in mind that you might feel awkward walking around a store if you’re shopping for adult toys for the first time. And that’s when the idea of shopping for adult toys online will really sound attractive.

Online adult shops

Advantages:

1. Just imagine ordering adult toys online from the comfort of your home. You can think more clearly, and there will be no distractions.  After all, if you are in a real store, you might have to get through all the kinky stuff before you can get to the beginners’ area. And if you are shopping online, you can just click on the category and now you’ve got all the time in the world to decide which toy you want to get.

2. Price – It is less expensive to get a toy online, because we are not paying for that store’s rent.  We are also not paying for the storage department where all the toys are held.

Disadvantage: You can’t touch the actual sex toy before you buy it. You can only see a photo of the adult toy, and that is it. You can’t touch it. But know that neither can you touch it in a real store.  And it makes sense because we don’t want to use toys that other people have touched. Don’t get me wrong, I’m only concerned with hygiene. This is why I support this policy although it prevents us from knowing what we’ve paid for beforehand. So it’s not a real disadvantage, when you come to think of it.

It is up to you to choose the way that you feel as most comfortable. If you think it will be awesome to go to a adult store – then do it! And if you feel uncomfortable in a adult store, buy a toy online. In both cases you can get a toy that will give you a lot of pleasure.

Let’s first find out why are we resisting sex when we are in a bad mood. The usual reasons – headache, bad day etc. are not reasons at all. Yes, we’ve had a little bit of bad luck – we’ve encountered people who were negative to us. But that doesn’t mean we should resist the person who cares so much about us – our significant other. In fact, we must do exactly the opposite.

How can we do that? Simply by letting go. We need to forget about the day we’ve had, and you can be sure that your partner will do whatever it takes to make you forget it. In most cases you’ll be surprised how little it takes for you to get back on track and get the desire.

When you are stuck inside your head, and all you can think are problems, it is impossible to see how great things will turn out. We are vibrating on a different level – anger, hate, fear – all the emotions you can think of that actually don’t matter anyway. You know why? Because they are usually at something that isn’t around you in that exact moment. What’s close to you is your partner, who wants to make you happy.

When you focus on the present moment, all your worries, all your fears – they will be gone. And then you can actually have fun. Yes, sometimes it is a bit harder to let go, but that’s something we can learn how to do. Remember when we were kids? We would fall, hurt ourselves, cry for a few minutes, and then we are back on our feet. If you were able to do it as a kid, you are able to do this now.

It’s so easy to just turn on a vibrating penis or vagina, and let it give you pleasure. Some people might say that they’d prefer to get that pleasure from a person, and that’s all right. But should it really be the only “right” way? Obviously not.

Is there something wrong about getting pleasure? We all have moments, when we are too tired to have sex even if we wanted to. And this is the perfect situation to just turn on an adult toy, and let it give us pleasure without making any effort. It feels so good, and it also takes the stress away.

And… of course there is the thrill of using a sex toy in all kinds of places. Go in a changing room or use it in your office while you’re working. Certain other places also come to mind. It keeps your hands free, so you can do whatever you want to do. This is a really nice trick for sexual pleasure addicts.

And you know what? You will become more positive and happy about your day and yourself. The sexual stimulation triggers parts of the brain, that release vast amounts of pleasure chemicals. That’s the same effect as when you’re eating chocolate, but much stronger. Of course, you can only stand so much pleasure, but it’s not like you’ll wear it all the time.

So know this – you can get pleasure all by yourself. All you need is some privacy, and sometimes even that won’t be necessary. And do you know why this is important? Because you’ll have sex only when you really want to. Not because you need to fuck someone, but you’ll want to do it out of love and compassion

An adult toy can be the perfect tool for that. For example – if you’re a man, suppose you are licking your partner’s pussy. Should you be touching the clitorus, or should you focus on the outer and the inner lips of the vagina. Give her a small vibrator, and focus on the vagina. She’ll explore on her own if she enjoys the double combo between the massage on her clit, and your tongue in her pussy.

If you’re a woman – suppose you’re giving your partner a blowjob. You can stroke his testicles at the same time, but you won’t be able to deliver the same sensation as a vibrating toy can give him. Both sensations are quite good, but as we know – variety is the key. One time you can leave the toy alone, and some other time you can use it to give your partner pleasure. It’s nice to have more options, is it not?

Get a vibrating adult toy, turn it on and you’re ready for some pleasure. The really convenient thing about it is that you can get pleasure without making effort. You can drive the sex toy to get more pleasure, while your partner works on some other part of your body. Or you can work on her/him, so you can both get pleasure from it. Again it’s up to you. The only thing that’s certain is that you can change the way you have sex every time. This will make your love for each other stronger than ever.

So lets suppose you are having a romantic dinner with a girl/guy. If you haven’t slept with her/him yet, it’s best not to use sex toys until you do. You might scare your partner away. But if it’s not your first time, then here’s just one way the things can turn out.

The romantic dinner is over, and you two suddenly get home. After the usual kissing on the front door, take a shower together. You’ll get more intimate with your partner, and you won’t have to think about your  hygiene while getting to the real action.

Actually, the real action can start in the bathroom. You are already doing something quite erotic and romantic, and if you show your partner the sex toy while showering, he/she will think that this is a great idea. The whole thing about you being fully naked, and the water touching your bodies will free your mind. You will get open to new ideas, and new adventures. This is just so romantic, isn’t it?

And after that… it’s all about you and your partner. Whatever you do, whatever sex toy you use, do it with love. That’s all it takes for a sex toy to be romantic (anyway, don’t use the hardcore stuff). You’ll see yourself in a new light, and you’ll surely like what you see. People dream to be that open and adventurous during sex. And this is a secret of doing it – do it with love. So simple, and so true. Maybe because it’s so simple, everyone fails to notice it. Everyone’s looking for the secret formula of success, while it all lies in your heart. Always remember that.

No matter if you want to have rough animalistic sex, or just a sensual romantic adventure, you can use sex toys. And you can also not use sex toys. You can do it either way, and your experience will still be the way you want it.

Adult toys can work on you in numerous ways. For example:
- If you’re a man, imagine sliding your cock inside a vibrating vagina, while your partner is caressing your body.
- If you’re a woman, imagine gently penetrating yourself with a soft vibrator, while your partner works on your clitorus, or your breasts.

You get the idea about what’s possible, don’t you? At first, you’ll resist the sensation, because it’s so intense. Once you accept it, and you give in – you will feel the pleasure shake you down to your core.

Obviously there is more than just pleasure. It’s about trust and therefore about intimacy. Just imagine your partner using sex toy on you for the first time. You will feel nervous, won’t you? Why? Because this is something new, something unknown. And the only way to overcome that is to have complete trust in our partner.

Trust-building exercises are so powerful. With an adult toy, you can build trust and feel sexual pleasure at the same time. Isn’t this what sex between lovers is mostly about?

I will advise you and your partner not to use adult toys every time you have sex. Otherwise, you will forget their purpose. The purpose is to bring you closer to one another, along with the different sexual experience. It’s exciting to use toys on yourself and your partner, but remember that you can also enjoy him/her without any toys at all.

If you and your partner are new to this, start with a sensual massage. Doing this, you will get more familiar and comfortable with your partner’s body, as well as with your own. After that you can get a sex toy. That wide variety of sex toys can meet your needs – everything from mild to wild.

And the mild ones aren’t scary at all. If your partner imagines some monstrous silicone penis, he can be scared. But if you start out with something like the jelly mini plug, you and your partner will quickly get used to it. And after that you will want to get another toy, but this time a little bigger perhaps.

A small vibrator is the best next step. Use it on every sensitive part of your body. Stroke his testicles, or her clitorus with it. After you get used to the sensation, you can use it to stimulate her vagina or even use it for anal play. Of course, do it when you feel you’re ready. After you pass that step, do whatever you want. Just a friendly advice – use sex toys just as a way to enhance your relationship. Know that you can get pleasure without them too. Variety is key.

Don’t feel as if using sex toys is a must. Do it only if you enjoy the experience. Because it is not about the sex toys. It’s about the intimacy between you and your partner. It’s the trust you build, that’s most rewarding about it all. And the pleasure you get comes as a close second.