Use Adult Toys To Give Yourself Pleasure

Adult toys can help you get more intimate with the person you’re having sex with, and you can also use them on yourself. It’s cool to know that you are able to give yourself pleasure, isn’t it?

It’s so easy to just turn on a vibrating penis or vagina, and let it give you pleasure. Some people might say that they’d prefer to get that pleasure from a person, and that’s all right. But should it really be the only “right” way? Obviously not.

Is there something wrong about getting pleasure? We all have moments, when we are too tired to have sex even if we wanted to. And this is the perfect situation to just turn on an adult toy, and let it give us pleasure without making any effort. It feels so good, and it also takes the stress away.

And… of course there is the thrill of using a sex toy in all kinds of places. Go in a changing room or use it in your office while you’re working. Certain other places also come to mind. It keeps your hands free, so you can do whatever you want to do. This is a really nice trick for sexual pleasure addicts.

And you know what? You will become more positive and happy about your day and yourself. The sexual stimulation triggers parts of the brain, that release vast amounts of pleasure chemicals. That’s the same effect as when you’re eating chocolate, but much stronger. Of course, you can only stand so much pleasure, but it’s not like you’ll wear it all the time.

So know this – you can get pleasure all by yourself. All you need is some privacy, and sometimes even that won’t be necessary. And do you know why this is important? Because you’ll have sex only when you really want to. Not because you need to fuck someone, but you’ll want to do it out of love and compassion

What Can Adult Toys Possibly Teach Us About Sex?

When we have sex, most of what we do to please our partner is either a time-tested technique, ot there’s some guesswork involved. You’d think you have to ask your partner what works for him/her. Well, you can, but is that really a solution? Your loved one will tell you what he/she knows for a fact to work, and it’s cool to do it again. But the real pleasure is to explore your partner’s body and find new ways to give him/her pleasure.

An adult toy can be the perfect tool for that. For example – if you’re a man, suppose you are licking your partner’s pussy. Should you be touching the clitorus, or should you focus on the outer and the inner lips of the vagina. Give her a small vibrator, and focus on the vagina. She’ll explore on her own if she enjoys the double combo between the massage on her clit, and your tongue in her pussy.

If you’re a woman – suppose you’re giving your partner a blowjob. You can stroke his testicles at the same time, but you won’t be able to deliver the same sensation as a vibrating toy can give him. Both sensations are quite good, but as we know – variety is the key. One time you can leave the toy alone, and some other time you can use it to give your partner pleasure. It’s nice to have more options, is it not?

Get a vibrating adult toy, turn it on and you’re ready for some pleasure. The really convenient thing about it is that you can get pleasure without making effort. You can drive the sex toy to get more pleasure, while your partner works on some other part of your body. Or you can work on her/him, so you can both get pleasure from it. Again it’s up to you. The only thing that’s certain is that you can change the way you have sex every time. This will make your love for each other stronger than ever.

Making Sex Toys Romantic

Can adult toys be a part of a romantic evening? Some people would automatically say “no”, and I can see their point. But hey, sex toys are just tools with great potential for pleasure. They can’t be romantic no matter what. But you can surely use them in romantic ways.

So lets suppose you are having a romantic dinner with a girl/guy. If you haven’t slept with her/him yet, it’s best not to use sex toys until you do. You might scare your partner away. But if it’s not your first time, then here’s just one way the things can turn out.

The romantic dinner is over, and you two suddenly get home. After the usual kissing on the front door, take a shower together. You’ll get more intimate with your partner, and you won’t have to think about your  hygiene while getting to the real action.

Actually, the real action can start in the bathroom. You are already doing something quite erotic and romantic, and if you show your partner the sex toy while showering, he/she will think that this is a great idea. The whole thing about you being fully naked, and the water touching your bodies will free your mind. You will get open to new ideas, and new adventures. This is just so romantic, isn’t it?

And after that… it’s all about you and your partner. Whatever you do, whatever sex toy you use, do it with love. That’s all it takes for a sex toy to be romantic (anyway, don’t use the hardcore stuff). You’ll see yourself in a new light, and you’ll surely like what you see. People dream to be that open and adventurous during sex. And this is a secret of doing it – do it with love. So simple, and so true. Maybe because it’s so simple, everyone fails to notice it. Everyone’s looking for the secret formula of success, while it all lies in your heart. Always remember that.

No matter if you want to have rough animalistic sex, or just a sensual romantic adventure, you can use sex toys. And you can also not use sex toys. You can do it either way, and your experience will still be the way you want it.

How Can I Benefit From Sex Toys?

During sex, the only things we are aiming at are intimacy and pleasure. And we can achieve them in so many ways. Using adult toys is just one of them. Is it all about the pleasure? No, but let’s start there.

Adult toys can work on you in numerous ways. For example:
- If you’re a man, imagine sliding your cock inside a vibrating vagina, while your partner is caressing your body.
- If you’re a woman, imagine gently penetrating yourself with a soft vibrator, while your partner works on your clitorus, or your breasts.

You get the idea about what’s possible, don’t you? At first, you’ll resist the sensation, because it’s so intense. Once you accept it, and you give in – you will feel the pleasure shake you down to your core.

Obviously there is more than just pleasure. It’s about trust and therefore about intimacy. Just imagine your partner using sex toy on you for the first time. You will feel nervous, won’t you? Why? Because this is something new, something unknown. And the only way to overcome that is to have complete trust in our partner.

Trust-building exercises are so powerful. With an adult toy, you can build trust and feel sexual pleasure at the same time. Isn’t this what sex between lovers is mostly about?

I will advise you and your partner not to use adult toys every time you have sex. Otherwise, you will forget their purpose. The purpose is to bring you closer to one another, along with the different sexual experience. It’s exciting to use toys on yourself and your partner, but remember that you can also enjoy him/her without any toys at all.

Inviting Sex Toys Into Your Bedroom

If you’ve never used sex toys before, it can be both interesting and scary, depending on how you do it. Many men and women found themselves confused, when their partner decides that it would be cool to get a sex toy. And actually, what most people associate with sex toys is only a part of the whole variety.

If you and your partner are new to this, start with a sensual massage. Doing this, you will get more familiar and comfortable with your partner’s body, as well as with your own. After that you can get a sex toy. That wide variety of sex toys can meet your needs – everything from mild to wild.

And the mild ones aren’t scary at all. If your partner imagines some monstrous silicone penis, he can be scared. But if you start out with something like the jelly mini plug, you and your partner will quickly get used to it. And after that you will want to get another toy, but this time a little bigger perhaps.

A small vibrator is the best next step. Use it on every sensitive part of your body. Stroke his testicles, or her clitorus with it. After you get used to the sensation, you can use it to stimulate her vagina or even use it for anal play. Of course, do it when you feel you’re ready. After you pass that step, do whatever you want. Just a friendly advice – use sex toys just as a way to enhance your relationship. Know that you can get pleasure without them too. Variety is key.

Don’t feel as if using sex toys is a must. Do it only if you enjoy the experience. Because it is not about the sex toys. It’s about the intimacy between you and your partner. It’s the trust you build, that’s most rewarding about it all. And the pleasure you get comes as a close second.